Self –advocate; Be Your Own Best Friend. This is very basic — almost intrinsic to our well-being and self-esteem. It is our birthright to be alive and be conscious. It is on this level that we acknowledge our own value, our own self-worth, our right to exist. Yet, we also have in our power to choose to nullify this birthright and deny being our own best friend and having our own self-interest at heart…..

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However, even with the lowest sense of self-esteem, the principle of basic self-acceptance is a life force which propels you to do something, to grow and to change. Being your own best friend, advocating for yourself, allows you to call for help to a doctor or counselor when you are in the depths of self-despair. It is when addicts finally acknowledge to themselves that they can’t take drugs anymore because they are killing themselves that they seek treatment and succeed…..

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There is a song by Mariah Carey called, “Hero,” which says, “the hero lies in you.” You show you’re a hero when you have a healthy sense of self-esteem. However, building that sense of confidence and self-worth often involves a lot of effort and struggle — as you’ve seen in my previous articles…..

To “live” the six pillars of self-esteem takes work. You’ll sometimes fear you can’t do it because it’s too difficult. You may face periods of rejection from your own ego as well as from your friends, family, colleagues or teachers…..

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“Living consciously may obligate us to confront our fears; it may bring us in contact with unresolved pain.  Self-acceptance may require that we make real to ourselves thoughts, feelings and actions that disturb our equilibrium. It may shake up our ‘official’ self-concept. Self-responsibility obliges us to face our ultimate aloneness. It demands we relinquish fantasies of a rescuer. Self-assertiveness entails the courage to be authentic with no guarantees of how others will respond; it means that we risk being ourselves. Living purposefully pulls us out of the passivity into the demanding life of high focus; it requires that we be self-generators. Living with integrity demands that we choose our values and stand by them, whether this is pleasant and whether others share our convictions?”….

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First we decide that our self-esteem and our happiness matter more than short term discomfort or pain. We take baby steps at being more conscious, more accepting, responsible and so on. We notice that we like ourselves more. That inspires us to push on and attempt to go further. We become more truthful to ourselves and others.

“Self-esteem rises. We take on harder assignments. We feel a little tougher, a little more resourceful. It becomes easier to confront discomforting emotions and threatening situations. We feel we have more assets (which will help us) cope. We become more self-assertive. We feel ￂ? Stronger.

“We are building the spiritual equivalent of a muscle. Experiencing ourselves as more powerful, we see difficulties in a more realistic perspective. We may never be entirely free of fear or pain, but they have lessened immeasurably and we are not intimidated by them. Integrity feels less threatening and more natural.”….

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Pillars of Self-esteem: Principle Two - Self-acceptance….

http://www.esight.org/view.cfm?x=648&room=n&id=0….

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Pillars of Self-esteem: Getting It Together ….

  http://www.esight.org/view.cfm?x=1138&room=n&id=0….

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Walt Disney:
Our heritage and ideals, our codes and standards - the things we live by and teach our children - are preserved or diminished by how freely we exchange ideas and feeling…..

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.. ..Amelia Earhart:….

Adventure is worthwhile.

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